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Is it OK for my husband to text another woman?
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If he wants to cheat on me, it’s not ok. But if he texts her once, twice, three times, four times, etc., that’s his business. He should tell me about it. We don’t want to live together anymore. We were married for 12 years. We had kids. Now he’s cheating on me. It hurts. It really hurts. I am devastated. I thought we were happy. I thought we could build a family. I thought we would grow old together. That’s why I didn’t divorce him until now. I just couldn’t handle it. My heart aches. I cry every day. I’m tired. I’m sad. I’m angry. I’m hurt. I’m confused. I’m lost. I don’t know what to do. I don’ know what to expect next. I don’ want to lose my children. They are my whole world. I don’ care about myself. I don’ give a damn. I’m not interested in anything right now. I’m numb. I feel empty. I feel hopeless. I feel alone. I feel betrayed. I feel cheated. I feel ashamed. I feel guilty. I feel stupid. I feel helpless. I feel worthless. I feel dirty. I feel disgusted. I feel embarrassed. I feel rejected. I feel useless. I feel humiliated. I feel scared. I feel lonely. I feel depressed. I feel anxious. I feel frustrated. I feel insecure. I feel empty. And I feel alone. I hate being single. I hate being divorced. I hate being single again. I hate being divorced again. I hate being single yet again. I hate being back at square one. I hate feeling this pain. I hate feeling this emptiness. I hate feeling this loneliness. I hate feeling this fear. I hate feeling this shame. I hate feeling this guilt. I hate feeling this embarrassment. I hate feeling this humiliation. I hate feeling this rejection. I hate feeling this betrayal. I hate feeling this cheating. I hate feeling this hurt. I hate feeling this disappointment. I hate feeling this anger. I hate feeling this sadness. I hate feeling this confusion. I hate feeling this loss. I hate feeling this stupidity. I hate feeling this helplessness. I hate feeling this worthlessness. I hate feeling this disgust. I hate feeling this anxiety. I hate feeling this frustration. I hate feeling this insecurity. I hate feeling this boredom. I hate feeling this regret. I hate feeling this desperation. I hate feeling this despair.
Why should I allow my husband to text other women?
If you’re married, chances are you’ve been asked this question at least once. And if you haven’t been asked yet, you soon will be.
This is because most men who cheat on their wives are not cheating on them out of lust or infatuation. They’re cheating on them because they feel inadequate and insecure in their relationship.
And when a man feels inadequate he looks elsewhere for comfort. He may seek approval from his friends, family, co-workers, or even strangers online.
That’s why it’s important for you to understand why your husband wants to text other women. Once you know the reason, you can help him find ways to improve himself so he doesn’t need to look outside his marriage for validation.
Here are some tips to help you guide your husband through this process:
1) Don’t judge him. Instead, listen carefully to what he says. Then ask questions to learn more about his feelings.
2) Be patient. This isn’t going to happen overnight. But over time, you can help your husband become a better person.
3) Help him develop healthy relationships with others. Encourage him to spend quality time with his children, parents, siblings, and friends.
4) Give him positive feedback. Praise him for things he does well. Tell him how proud you are of him.
5) Make him accountable. Ask him to keep a journal where he writes down everything he thinks, feels, and does.
6) Avoid negative comments. Negative comments only reinforce his bad behavior.
7) Offer support. Let him know you’re there for him whenever he needs you.
Does he need permission from me?
This question comes up frequently among couples who are married and living together. The answer depends on whether you’re legally married or not.
If you’ve been married for at least six months, you may be considered legally married. This means that your spouse has the right to give you consent to engage in sexual activity. However, this doesn’t mean your spouse has the right (or obligation) to tell you when he wants to cheat on you.
On the other hand, if you haven’t been married for at least 6 months, you aren’t legally married. Your partner does not have the right to give you his/her consent to engage in sexual activities.
Therefore, if you’re not legally married, your spouse needs your written consent to engage in any type of sexual activity. He/she must ask you for permission every time he/she wants to have sex.
However, there are exceptions. For instance, if you live together and you’re engaged, you may be considered married. Therefore, your spouse would only need your consent to engage in sexual intercourse.
Even though you’re technically married, you still need to discuss these issues with your partner because you don’t want him/her to feel guilty or ashamed. So, talk to your partner about these things.
Should I tell him no?
Texting is a great way to keep in touch with friends and family members. But when you’re married, texting isn’t just okay—it’s encouraged.
If you’ve been dating for any length of time, chances are you’ve had some serious conversations via text messages. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Text messaging is a great way to stay connected with loved ones who live far away.
But if you’re married, texting shouldn’t be used exclusively for romantic purposes. Instead, use texts to communicate important information, like where you’ll be at certain times, or to ask questions about household chores.
And remember, if you ever feel uncomfortable with your spouse texting another person, talk to them about it. They may not realize they’re being rude.
Final point
This is a common issue that couples face, so don’t worry too much about it. Just try to talk through any issues with your partner and come up with a solution together.